How Did I Come Up With My Story Idea?

I was interviewed and asked how I came up with my story idea for my Beyond the Eyes trilogy. 

I was told it's a unique concept and should be made into a movie or TV series.

Wouldn't that be nice? LOL

I think all authors daydream about that.

The concept is there are humans born without a soul and dark spirits can inhabit them and by doing so, they can experience whatever they desire while being in the flesh.

It’s pretty cool.

How did I come up with the concept?

Well, I'd always wondered if there were people who didn't have a soul because I'd seen more than a few peeps in my life that when I looked into their eyes there was no spark, no life, zero, zilch, nada. What really spooked me was when I was working at a pediatric clinic. A mother brought in her baby. He was sitting in one of those car carriers. She sat it on the floor so she could pay her co-pay. I looked into her child's eyes, and they were empty.


So the idea of my trilogy and the world I created derives from me wondering if there are soulless people among us.

Do you believe there are humans born without a soul?

I wonder.

Let's say there are and take it one step further. What if there are dark spirits and they can possess these empty shells of a human being?

The once vacant eyes now has life in them, and you have no idea you're conversing with a dark entity.

Kinda creepy, eh.

If you want to delve deeper into this concept of mine and the premises I created for my stories that drive them forward. You can pick up Beyond the Eyes for free here––>

The Internal World Of An Author

I can’t speak for all writers, but this is what my internal world is like as an author.

I have a loud mind.

Stephen King once said quiet people have loud minds. I don’t know. I mean, I’m quiet when I have nothing to say, and I don’t ever have the need to hijack someone’s conversation . . .  so yeah, now that I think about it, I do have a loud mind.

My thoughts constantly scatter.

I can have a conversation with my husband and think of other things at the same time. Where I get into trouble is when he’s telling me something I’m not in the least bit interested in. I’ll focus on my thoughts instead and not hear a word he’s saying.

My mind always turns an unexplained noise or situation into a story.

This is so true, and nine times out of ten I’ll tell the person with me about it. And yes, that person looks at me like I grew another head—unless it’s another author I’m telling it to.

I'll compare real life situations to fictional ones.

I’ll compare a situation someone is in or was in or something that happened that’s relevant to one of my characters, and I’ll talk about it.

Self-induced stress.

Sometimes I become anxious and irritable when I have so many things to do like edits, rewrites, posting, marketing, etc. and not enough time to do them. Basically, I get overwhelmed, and my thoughts won’t stop whirling.

I have stories racing through my mind.

I have so many stories I want to write but not enough time to do so. 

I’m never bored.

It's very rare that I'm bored. I have too many things to do to get bored.


If I’m not working on a story, I get grumpy and depressed.


I get nervous and scared when other people reads my story.

I'm a serf to my imaginary friends.

My character’s talk to me, and they can get demanding to where I have to appease them. I am their slave.


I get excited and giddy when I’m creating a story. 

My characters crack me up and make me weep.

I laugh when one of my characters does something funny. I also cry when something bad happens to them.

So do I like being an author?


I frickin’ love it.


Because despite the anguish as an author I go through to churn out a novel and market it, I created something out of nothing. I have the ability to transfer what’s inside of me, onto paper, and into other people’s minds. I can share with them worlds and characters they never knew about. I can teach them lessons or at least get them to think on topics they never thought about before. I can make them laugh, cry, smile, and get frustrated. I can entertain them. I’m giving something to this world that more than likely will last well after I’m gone, which rocks.

Yes, I’m overwhelmed. 

But . . .

Being an author makes me happy and want to do a silly dance.

Enough said.

The One Secret To My Editing Process That Every Writer Should Know

As some of you know, I've finished the first rough draft of Legends of Deceit book 2. I still don’t have a title for it, but I will soon.

I was going to write a post on my writing process from start to finish but decided to save that for another time. Instead, I’ll tell you straight up what that one secret to my editing process is.

Are you ready?

It’s finding your repetitive words, descriptions, or sayings.

We all have them.

Say for example you wrote: my heart thudded hard against my chest. You noticed while you were doing your first read through that you had used those words more than once to describe what your character was feeling. So now what you want to do is discover how many times you wrote it in your story.

How do you do that?


In Word, you want to go to the top right-hand corner and click on find. On the left-hand side of the screen, there will be a window that pops up. Beneath the word Navigation will be a search bar. Enter the word(s) you want to search for to see how many are in your story. I just typed in draft, and it came up twice. 

How cool is that?

This secret trick of mine will help you tremendously in your editing process.


Is Reincarnation True?

Reincarnation, what does it mean? According to Wikipedia, reincarnation is the religious or philosophical concept that the soul or spirit, after biological death, begins a new life in a new body.

Since I was a kid, I've read every book I could get my hands on about reincarnation, NDE (near death experiences), past life regression, and the afterlife. I find all three topics fascinating, so I thought I'd do a short post on reincarnation. 

There have been countless case studies on this subject. Dr. Stevenson was one of the world's top experts on reincarnation. During his forty year investigation on the subject, he studied close to 2500 children who reported past life memories. 1200 of those cases, Dr. Stevenson was able to validate the child's past life memories. The children would describe a previous life, giving names and location of family members that proved to be accurate. They also knew family secrets from their prior family.

Arnall Bloxham--a Welsh hypnotherapist--hypnotized hundreds of people and recorded descriptions of previous lives from his patients. He's an expert in past life regression and can take a person back to the moment of her birth and beyond it. His clients would tell him baffling details of their past lives dating back hundreds of years. He recorded over 400 sessions and researched numerous cases which proved to be factual.

I've read books on past life regression, and there were numerous cases similar to the one I read about a gal who was afraid of water, only to discover in a past life she died drowning. It makes me wonder if some of our fears stem from a previous incarnation.

What do you think?

Have you ever been to a place or seen a picture that tugged at your heart and seemed hauntingly familiar?

I have.

Have you ever met someone you felt totally comfortable with and couldn't deny the connection you also felt with that person?

I have.

I don't know for sure if reincarnation is true, but part of me thinks it is and that it's our decision to come back or not.

Do you believe in reincarnation? 

Twenty Tips To A Happy Marriage

Do you want to know what the secret is to a happy marriage/relationship?

I’ve been with Kevin for twenty-four years and will be married to him for twenty-three on July 25th of this year. One of the best things I've ever done in my life was marry him. I’m not tooting my horn or anything, but we have the most awesome relationship ever. Yeah, he gets on my nerves sometimes and I get on his, but it’s no big deal.

Side note: I’m no expert; however, the following doesn’t only come from me but from relationship experts as well:

Anyway, here are the twenty tips to a happy marriage/relationship.

1.) The person you marry should be your best friend. Period. 

     2.) A sense of humor. You have to have a sense of humor in a relationship. If you can’t tease and play around with each other, it won’t work. Having fun with your spouse and joking around is important.

    3.) Appreciation. You need to show or tell your significant other how much you appreciate her. Whenever Kevin does something like the dishes, for example, I thank him for it and tell him I appreciate it, and he does the same for me as well. We don't do it all of the time but enough to where the other party doesn't feel taken advantage of.

   4.) Common courtesy. If you’re going to be late coming home or whatever, call (Kevin and I do this all the time). Common courtesy. If the gas tank is almost on empty, stop at a gas station and fill it up. Common courtesy. Guys, put the toilet seat down before you go to bed. The list goes on.

   5.) Honesty. You must be honest with one another because resentment will eventually kill your relationship. It doesn’t go away. It festers.

   6.) Don’t finger point. “Well, this happened because you did this. We wouldn’t be in this situation if you would have checked our bank account.” Instead, you need to talk it out. We all make mistakes. This one time Kevin bought a pick-up and asked the dealership guy to hold our check. Well, he didn’t, and our rent check bounced. I could have easily been pissed off at Kevin and rightfully so. I told him it might happen, and he assured me it wouldn’t. It did. Oh, well. Move on.

   7.) If you plan on making a big purchase on something, talk it over with your spouse first. It’s her money, too.

   8.) Teammates. You need to work together to accomplish what you want in life. Kevin and I do this all the time. When we were in credit card debt, we both said, enough is enough. We need to fix this and build our bank account. We cracked down and paid off all of our credit cards. It took a year, but we did it.

   9.) Be supportive. You must support each other's goals in life. If it’s something outlandish and you feel is idiotic, don’t talk down to him. You’re best friends, so talk it over and voice your concerns. Come up with a comprise you both can agree upon.

 10.) Never take each other for granted. Leave notes to one another from time to time. They can be simple such as, I miss and love you. Kevin and I do that, and it always puts a smile on my face.

  11.) Sex. Yeah, sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it is part of it.

  12.) Thoughtfulness. Be thoughtful towards one another. The other day I was late for lunch. I came home, and Kevin was in the middle of making me a ham sandwich. It touched me that he thought of me, knowing I would have to make my own lunch, then go back to work. He saved me the trouble of making it. I really appreciated it and told him so. Another example is every Sunday my editor makes breakfast for his girlfriend. How sweet is that?

   13.) Don’t try to change each other. But then again, if you married your best friend, you wouldn’t have to, right?

   14.) Have date nights. Life gets hectic. Let’s face it. We live in a world where we're expected to constantly go, go, go. You need to carve out one night a week where you and your hubby can go out and have some fun together. Kevin and I go out to eat every Saturday night. It’s something to get excited about and look forward to.

   15.) Respect. You must respect each other because if you don’t you’re in trouble.

   16.) Trust. That’s a big one. Without trust, your relationship is doomed.

   17.) Praise. You should praise each other. I’m always telling Kevin he rocks when he does something cool, and he does the same for me as well.

   18.) Compliments. Tell your wife or girlfriend she’s beautiful or cute. If she makes a good meal, tell her how yummy it is. 

   19.) Affection. There are some peeps who aren’t affectionate, but I think everyone needs some affection. Hug and kiss your other half every day. Tell him you love him. Tell her you’ll miss her.

   20.) Be open. I don’t care what anyone says, if you can’t talk about your poos or be open enough to fart in front of each other from time to time, there are some fun and comfort lacking in your relationship. You don't have to be rude or disgusting about it. But those things are part of being human, so why not joke and be silly about them? We all have gross bodily functions. Why hide it from the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with? Kevin and I joke and laugh about it all the time. In fact, Kevin will sometimes say as he's heading to the bathroom, "I think I got to make some Beckis." Hahaha. He's such a dork. But believe me, I get him back. :) See what I mean, though?

The couple in this picture has been married for 80 years. Yes, you read that right. 80 years! He’s 101 years old and she’s 97. They claim they’re still in love. Sweet, huh?

Anyway, if you follow those twenty things I’ve mentioned, you’re going to have an awesome relationship that will last your whole life. 

How I Set My Goals For The Week

I know.

It’s Monday.


But do you know what that means? It means a new start to a new week. It’s all a matter of perspective. You can look at Monday as a start to another hell week or an opportunity to set goals you want to accomplish for the week.

It’s all a matter of perspective.

At the end of 2017, I knew I needed to accomplish a lot this year in order to create the life I want to live. I needed something to help me organize my weekly goals, so I bought this day planner. It has helped me out in more ways than one.

I knew I needed to accomplish a lot this year in order to create the life I want to live.

It’s a great weekly and monthly planner. Every Sunday I take it out and write down my weekly goals and notes. There are also sections for each day so I’ll write what I want to accomplish on Monday such as posting on social media, go through emails, write a blog post, etc. On Monday night I’ll read through my list and check off the things I've accomplished that day, and then I’ll move onto Tuesday and write down my goals for Tuesday.


These are included in each weekly plan which is great because it helps me remember what I want to do that week, like try a new recipe or if I see something creative I want to do, I'll write it down under ideas. I also write under notes the things I’ll want to check on next year, like what the weather was like during that month.

Btw, I’m not an affiliate for this day planner. Just in case you’re wondering.

There’s also a vision board for each month and a week 1-4 section to break down your monthly goals into tangible tasks. Honestly, I’m good at filling in the first week, but then I forget about it. I do find myself at times behind in entering my daily goals because life gets in the way, but I’ll regroup and get back at it. I can proudly say, though, since I started this day planner, I’ve accomplished a lot.

Speaking of accomplishing a lot, I got a lot done this weekend thanks to planning and following through. We went to the landfill and emptied our trailer that was full of leaves, branches, etc. We finished renovating our enclosed porch. Finally! I discovered I’m not good at taping. Kevin told me it was practice for when we remodel our RV. We also stained the logs on our house and was thrilled with how they turned out.

I got a lot accomplished, thanks to planning and following through.

So yesterday evening I planned out my week in my trusty day planner. Instead of groaning about another Monday, I’m looking forward to accomplishing my goals because it means I’m one day closer to living the life I want.  

Our RV Made Our Jaws Drop In Disbelief

Last weekend was the first nice day we’ve had in six months. The snow was just about gone from our yard, the sun was shining, and the temp was perfect. With excitement in our hearts to finally be able to work on Aesop (RV) and start filming for our future YouTube channel, we set out to accomplish what we’d been longing to do during the six months of grueling winter.

But first a little backstory.

Last August when we decided to get an RV (I’ll tell ya more about that story another time), and eventually explore the U.S. as digital nomads, we went hunting for one on the internet. Kevin found a class A motorhome and showed it to me. I wasn’t too sure about it. In fact, I wanted to keep looking. I’m an indecisive person to the point of sometimes being a pain in the ass. So I kept searching and came across one and showed Kevin. Well, it was the same one he showed me earlier which was weird.

I’m an indecisive person to the point of sometimes being a pain in the ass.

I decided to go run some errands. While I was out I had this gut feeling to go to the convenience store and pick up an Auto Trader. I did, thinking there might be motorhomes in there for sale. When I got home, I thumbed through it and found a class A. I showed Kevin, and we discovered it was the same one he showed me earlier

I had this gut feeling to go to the convenience store and pick up an Auto Trader.

The same class A motorhome kept showing up, so Kevin went online and learned that it was now up for auction. He placed a bid. The amount he entered was too low. He placed another bid, and it stuck. He ended up winning so we drove to Detroit Lakes, MN and picked it up. To our delight, the RV was in great shape, except we did have to replace a solenoid and put a new battery in it before trekking back home. Kevin said driving it was a dream.

The same class A motorhome kept showing up.

My friend Ronnie offered for us to park our RV in his huge shop for the winter. It was a generous and kind offer. Knowing that North Dakota’s winters could be brutal, we were going to take him up on his offer.


One day Kevin went to go start our RV so we could take it to Ronnie’s shop, and the ignition switch didn’t work. At all. When Kevin turned the key, it went all the way around.

What the hell?

The weather was already getting chilly and nipping at us, so instead of fixing the ignition switch, Kevin decided to leave our RV in our backyard. Besides, we loved looking out our kitchen window and seeing our motorhome. It was an affirmation to us that we had a plan instead of being part of someone else's plan and this was what we were working our butts off to accomplish—a nomadic lifestyle, to live instead of just exist.

We had a plan instead of being part of someone else’s plan.

Fast forward to February.

Ronnie’s shop burned down. If our RV was in there, it would have been ashes or close to it.

He lost everything.

No one was hurt, though. What he lost was just stuff. He got lucky.

Now rewind back to the beginning of this post when last Saturday we were pumped up to work on our RV and get it started. Our mechanic friend Curt came over to help Kevin. We had just come back from Carquest, where Kevin bought two batteries—even though the one in the RV was the one we bought in Minnesota—and hooked them up. We told Curt we had to go back to Carquest, but we wouldn’t be too long.

When we came back home this is what happened:

Curt: “She’s running.”

Kevin and I: “What?”

Curt: “She’s running.”

Kevin: “How can she be running? The ignition switch wasn’t working. I tried it several times and the key went all the way around.”

Curt: “I don’t know, man, but she’s running.”

Our jaws dropped.

No kidding.

Kevin and I: “Turn it on! Turn it on! Turn it on!”

He turned it on, and the sound was music to our ears. She was running beautifully, and we couldn’t help but laugh and smile because the realization had hit us at the same time that if she would have run back in October when we were going to store her in Ronnie’s shop for the winter, she would have burned down.


Obviously, this is the RV we’re supposed to have because #1 at the beginning when we decided to be digital nomads, she kept showing up. #2 she was meant not to burn down.

Was this the hand of Fate?

I don’t know, but it sure seems like it.

Since we've been together, Kevin and I have always followed signs, and they've never failed us. I could write more blog posts on the subject, but this one will suffice for now. If everything flows together, it’s meant to be. Don’t force anything, just go with it. So we’re surfing this wave to see where it takes us.

If everything flows together, it’s meant to be.

We have no worries.

It’s all good.

Right now, Aesop is at Kevin’s work, waiting to get serviced and gone through by mechanics. Like I said early, I started filming clips of the beginning of our awesome journey, however, I wish I could have captured our jaws dropping when Curt told us our RV was running. 

Oh, well.

No biggie.

I’m going to go with the flow and see where Fate takes us.

Don’t Throwaway Smiles

This bag of coins was more than half full before I took this picture. They’re coins from all around the world, and Kevin wanted to throw them away.


He thought it was much better to throw them in the trash than to try to figure out what to do with them.

You see we’re not all about materialistic things. In fact, we’re in the process of becoming minimalist—to only keep the things that serve us or has a sentimental value.

So I understood where he was coming from. The coins had no value to us. However, I took the bag from him and stashed it in the drawer of my desk.

“You’re not throwing away smiles,” I told him.

What I meant by that was if a kid found some of those coins on the ground, he or she would smile, thinking it was cool. I remember as a child finding loose change in the grass, and it most certainly made me smile.

Last Friday night, Kevin and I took a walk around our town. At the beginning of our walk, he tossed something on the ground. I turned to see what it was, and he told me not to look, to keep walking. I then realized he just dropped one of those coins on the ground.

I had totally forgotten I was going to do that, but he didn’t and took it upon himself to hand out smiles. I then asked him to give me some, and he did. We strolled through the park where there were kids playing and covertly released coins throughout the playground.

“This is fun,” Kevin said to me. “I’m glad you kept these coins.”

It was fun, and then on Saturday night, we finished tossing the rest of the change around town where we knew kids would find them.

This afternoon, we took another walk around town (we love to walk) and saw an adult male with a metal detector in the park we dropped the coins at. We couldn’t help but laugh and smile, thinking we might have created some gossip around our small town (this town loves to gossip) that would be centered on the mysterious worldly coins. So the smiles those coins created weren’t only reserved for the children like I thought, they were for everyone, including ourselves.